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Thursday, April 18, 2013

Story of Appreciation

I received this email, I felt like crying because miss my mother. My mother loved me and cared for me like the mother in the story below. But my mother passed on about seven years ago. I am grateful to my mother for all that she has done for me. You should appreciate people who have been good to you. And you should do this while they are alive.  Otherwise you will live a life of regret. Parents should teach good values to their children. They should not spoil them by over protecting them or spoiling them by buying gifts when they have not done anything to earn them. If they done something wrong tell them and teach them what is right. Teach them to do charity work for the less fortunate, take care of the elderly, say "Thank-you!", be grateful for lives gift, etc.

"One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first.

He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.

For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement.

He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more.

If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV.

But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters.

It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.

You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person.

The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

You would have forwarded many mails to many and many of them would have back mailed you too...but try and forward this story to as many as possible...this may change somebody's fate... :)".


Thank you for reading this and for sharing this with your friends.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Dress for Success!

Dear Friends,

Every person in the Corporate world as well as those who run their own business need to dress well. If you dress like a successful person then people will want to do business with you. But if you dress like a person who does care about his dressing then people will treat you that way as well. They will not care about you. So, pay some attention to your dressing!

If you want to feel good, one way to do that is to dress well. Your dressing can more often than not reflect how you feel. Your focus is on dressing well which can then change your mood for the better.

I am not asking anyone to be shallow and superficial. That's the way the world works. People do treat those who dress well better than those who do not dress well. I feel that we should treat everyone well regardless of their dressing. But it is only human to have a first impression  and that will affect the way you treat the person. If you are guy looking to find a girlfriend, one of the first things to do is to dress well. You don't have to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney. If you look and dress decent and if you have good mannerism and character you will attract the right girl. Likewise, for girls who are looking for boyfriend. Don't be shallow...don't just go for looks or the person's wallet. Good character is more important for long and lasting relationship and this goes beyond looks.

I like to dress for the occasion. I feel good when I dress well. If I dress like I just got out of bed, I will feel lousy. You should try to wear clothes that fit you well. If have put on a few pounds than choose clothes that can cover some of these flaws. A better option is for you to eat healthy food, get lots of rest and exercise at least 3 x a week. That way, you can maintain your ideal weight for your age and look younger because when look after yourself well you will feel younger, more energetic and look youthful.

If you need ideas on how to be fashionable, you need not go far. You have the YouTube, Google, fashion magazines such GQ, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, Vogue, Elle, etc. Another way, is to mirror your friend or your favorite star whose style and fashion you admire. Of course, you should choose someone who about the same built. That way, you are more likely to look better when you make a style switch. My rule: Dress according to the occasion. You do not want to stand out like a fashion victim.

Dress for Success! But sure you have substance as well otherwise you will be like a mannequin on a window display.

Cheers,
Mark

p.s. tell me your success stories about how you Dressing for Success has benefited you !